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MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus… John Gray

MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS

Dear John: My husband had an affair two years ago, and I’ve yet to get over it. I guess the real problem I am having is not about the affair itself, but the way “Jason” felt toward the other woman. After the affair was discovered, he showed so much emotion and feelings for her!

Here I was a complete wreck, and he felt sorry for her. He would tell me how wonderful she was at a time when I needed to hear that I was the one who was wonderful. Jason says he was with her just a few times, which makes it harder to hear that he felt more for her than he did during the nine years he has spent with me. He ended it when I found out, and he hasn’t spoken to her since.

He says he loves me more now than ever before. I am trying so hard to make this work. I really do love him with all my heart, but it is just so hard. After two years, I still cry about it daily. I think about the whole affair at least three times a day, and I just can’t seem to heal. I have so much anger, resentment and pain that some days I just can’t take it anymore. — How Do You Mend a Broken Heart? in Marietta, Ga.

Dear How Do You Mend a Broken Heart: You’re right. It’s time that you heal this pain that you feel. That, however, cannot happen at this point, until Jason can act to regain your trust and you can learn to trust again.

Let me assure you, I get hundreds of letters from spouses — both women and men — who have gone through similar experiences. They have found it very difficult to put their partner’s infidelity behind them so that the relationship can reaffirm itself and thrive again.

The process of healing begins when you openly address your pain. This can be done by first writing down exactly what you feel: Your sadness for growing apart in the first place; your anger over his infidelity; your hurt over his concern for her, and what you took to be his lack of concern for you; your need to hear his apology; and your hope that the two of you can once again grow together in love.

Your husband is still at your side because he needs your love and wants your forgiveness.

Because he wants to heal this wound as well, he will listen to what you have to say. And he will work to reassure you, both in words and in actions, that he is once again worthy of your love and trust.Dear John: I’ve recently met a wonderful man. Although he’s in his 30s and I am in my 40s, we’ve really clicked. However, I have noticed some conflicts, which, I admit, could be attributed to our age difference. For example, he thinks that I should call him and initiate dates, and that I shouldn’t hesitate to pay for half of the date.

I don’t want him to think I’m being old-fashioned to insist he man up, but in all honestly, I do miss the 90s, which demonstrated the differences between dating and just being friends. Any suggestions? — Always a Lady in Bridgeport, Conn.

Dear Always a Lady: You don’t have to be 45 years or older to be a gentleman wooing a lady. The courtesy that arises from love and respect is ageless and visible no matter when we were born. At the same time, you don’t have to be 25 to be cheap, as I’m sure you witnessed in other dating situations.

This guy may not be “old school,” but you can teach a new dog some old tricks. Don’t be afraid to tell him what you want: If he waits for you to get in touch first, try holding off to see if he misses you enough to pick up the phone. If and when he finally asks you out, ask up front if the date is Dutch treat. If he says, yes, tell him that you’ll pass. Enough passes and he’ll get the message: You’re not his pal; you’re his date.

John Gray is the author of “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.” If you have a question, write to John in care of this newspaper or by e-mail at: comments@marsvenusliving.com. All questions are kept anonymous and will be paraphrased. To find out more about John Gray and read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate website at www.creators.com.

COPYRIGHT 2010 JOHN GRAY’S MARS VENUS ADVICE

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By nordend – February 24, 2010

Marriage advice

Marriage advice

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1. Stop any argument cold in it’s track. Three little steps will turn almost any argument into a productive discussion in less than five minutes. FIRST say “I really want to have this conversation, but first, please excuse me I must go to the bathroom.” Interrupting the argument will give each of you a chance to cool down and collect your thoughts. SECOND If one the phone say “Excuse me for a moment, I have to handle a call on the other line.”If you are on a cell phone, break the connection in the middle of one of your own sentences. Call back a few minutes later and apologize for being cut off. THIRD Use your break time to think  Decide what you really want to accomplish by turning the argument into a discussion.  Get very clear about your own objectives.  Return to the conversation, summarize the argument so far, and then ask politely what the other person wants the outcome of the conversation to be.

2. Regain the respect of your partner. Heal this pain that you feel. That, however, cannot happen until your partner can act to regain your trust and you can learn to trust again. The process of healing begins when you openly address your pain. This can be done by first writing down exactly what you feel: Your sadness for growing apart in the first place; your anger over his infidelity; your hurt over his concern for her, and what you took to be his lack of concern for you; your need to hear his apology; and your hope that the two of you can once again grow together in love. ( read more about this or about the authors book

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus… John Gray
3. How to affair-proof your marriage.

4. Change your spouse’s behavior.

If you want to change your spouse’s behavior, change your own. Change #1 should be focusing on your own full plate of faults and forgetting your spouse’s.  If you don’t, be sure your focus on his/her faults will draw attention read more

5. Improve your communications. Apparently some married people lose the ability to communicate so completely that droves of therapists and self-help books insist that they must learn and constantly rehearse elaborate techniques to understand each other. Communication in love relationships is a function of emotional connection. When people feel connected, they communicate fine, and when they feel disconnected they communicate poorly, regardless of their choice of words and communication techniques. People do not fight and stonewall for lack of communication techniques. They fight and shut down because they feel the like their partners don’t care or aren’t interested in how they feel. They fight and shut down to numb the pain of disconnection. Negative reactivity can be regulated into positive attunement only through interest and caring, i.e., one has to be interested in and show sympathy for the other. Interest and caring, like all emotional states, are conveyed primarily by facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice, not by words or communication techniques. You must convey that you will love and value your partner whether she/he agrees with you or not. Anything short of this devalues the connection – it’s not as important as what you want to talk about, thereby guaranteeing negative reactivity. (read more )

6. Avoid the # 1 problem in marriage. #1: Criticism

Common marriage problem #1, criticism, involves attacking someone’s personality rather than their behavior. Everyone has the right to complain.  Airing a complaint, though rarely pleasant, is a healthy marital activity, and much healthier than suppressing the grievance.  Criticism, on the other hand, entails blaming, making a personal attack or an accusation. Whereas complaints usually begin with the word I, criticisms begin with you. For example, “I wish we went out more than we do” is a complaint. “You never take me anywhere” is a criticism. Criticism is just a short hop beyond complaining.  It may seem like splitting hairs to label it one of the four main common marriage problems, but receiving a criticism really does feel far worse than receiving a complaint. (read more )

7. Solve conflicts peacefully. The key point is that not only you must solve problems but do so in a peaceful, calm way so that your spouse feel like to have won. That’s call a win-win scenario and it’s the best way to reduce arguments and restore love. Doing so will not only dramatically boost your couples harmony quotient, but also improve your couple on the long run. And wouldn’t that be ever be a plus?

If you’re frustrated, confused and looking for help to improve or keep your marriage, you need to download this book.  Please visit http://www.makinguplove.com

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By nordend – February 24, 2010

How To Develop The Basic Skills To Get A Boyfriend Quickly

How To Develop The Basic Skills To Get A Boyfriend Quickly

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Did you know it takes a little luck and skills to get a boyfriend? If you’re like I was, a little shy and a bit of a wallflower, you have felt the hurt and pain because you were ignored by a boy or man you really liked. And chances are your peers, may have laughed a little, just because you didn’t have the necessary skills to develop a relationship with this person.

Now here is some good news, it’s really not difficult to develop the knowledge to stop being a wallflower and so shy that men don’t pay any attention to you. The fact is once you have acquired the basic skills, you will realize how simple it is. A little motivation and a few ideas should be able put you on the right track.

Now before we get into this discussion in full, please understand I’m not trying to beat you down nor the men that have ignored you. Because there is a good chance you both have to shoulder a little of the blame. You because you haven’t taken the time nor the interest to develop your skills and the men because they don’t take the time to see you for who you really are.

Your close friends and family really know you are a caring and giving person, underneath your shyness. However, unfortunately many men only go by the first impression, and they often times interpret shyness as you being cold and unapproachable. But with practice you can quickly work around this problem.

Let’s take a look at a few things you may need to think about.

* Body language

When meeting or talking with someone do you stand with your arms crossed in front of your chest? If you do chances are you are conveying an “unapproachable” attitude. In other words, ‘don’t invade my space and I have no interest in you’ type of thing. Wow! That is a big turnoff to anyone, much less the man you are interested in.

What you should do when meeting someone is have your arms and hands down by your side or at least if you have them crossed do so below your waist. This indicates to the man or anyone, you are open and interested in them. Making a conscience decision to do this in all conversations and you will soon develop the habit of doing so unconsciously.

* Eye contact

It’s well known that most shy people have difficulty in having direct eye contact. A great many men have been taught from when they were young boys, that you should maintain eye contact during conversations. Consequently, if you don’t maintain eye contact, they feel you are ignoring them and have little if any interest in them at all. Therefore make a conscience decision to maintain eye contact as much as possible.

Keep doing this until it becomes an unconscious habit for you. Once you have reached the habit stage, it will be a major stepping stone to you being seen as open an approachable.

* Smile

Did you know a sincere smile, that not only shows on your lips, but travels to your eyes, will light up your whole face and body. It’s true! When a person is smiling they convey a sense of confidence, trust and openness. And men love a beautiful smile. It always causes them to take a second look.

As you can see, with a little practice, you really can develop the skills to get a boyfriend quickly. Not only will you get the man of your dreams, you will be able to keep him.

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By nordend – February 20, 2010

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Big Love: The Complete First Season (2006)

Big Love 4.6: Barb Ascendant

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Big Love: The Complete Fourth Season

What we first noticed last week – Barb voicing her views to Margene about how Margene joined the family – comes out full throttle in Big Love 4.6, as Barb lets Bill know just how she feels about not only Margene but Ana.

Why Ana?  She’s come back into Bill and the family’s life with news that she’s pregnant.   This was the one thing that didn’t quite happen in 4.5, when just about all else hell broke lose for Bill and his family and his political career.    But Barb is not really too upset about this – in fact, she wants to welcome Ana into the family – until-

She and we learn that Bill and Ana conceived the baby before he and Ana were briefly married last year.  This leads to Barb giving Bill the best tongue-lashing we’ve seen in the series so far, about Bill’s extra-curricular pre-marital sex.  This is where Margene comes into the picture in Barb’s outrage – she and Bill also had sex before they were married.

It’s good to see Barb getting back into a little greater control of the family.  One aspect beyond her control, however, is Ben along with Lois and Frank in Mexico.   They’re trying to make a deal with a balky bird dealer, when those horrible Greens show up, Hollis and Selma.   I tell ya, Nightmare on Elm Street has nothing on the Greens as far as sheer creep-quality is concerned.   I’d rather spend an evening with J.J.

I’m not sure how Nikki would feel about that, though.  She shows up dressed like a “whore” – her mother’s word – for J.J. and her mother’s wedding, and there’s no doubt that not much good is going to come out of that situation, either.

Top it off with Alby’s gay lover committing suicide, and you have a Big Love just simmering for punishment and redemption as Season 4 proceeds.

Big Love: The Complete Fourth Season ~ Bill Paxton, Jean Tripplehorn, Chloe Sevigny, and Ginnifer Goodwin (DVD)

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By nordend – February 20, 2010

How to get a girls number

How to get a Girls number

Attracting and Seducing Women: How to Use ‘Option Limitation’ to Maximise Your Success and get a girls number.

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Getting girls to feel an attraction for you – that isn’t simply based on your looks, the contents of your wallet or the car you’ve got parked outside – can be really tricky.

After all, how are men supposed to know what each girl’s looking for without asking?

If you DID ask, you know your chances would be small, after all, no girl wants a guy approaching her with needy questions – she wants a confident man who somehow seems to know what she’s after and can give it to her.

So how do you do it?

How do you become the man that effortlessly exudes confidence, dominance and presence, without turning into an arrogant poser or desperate wannabe?

The answer lies in psychology. It’s at the heart of all persuasive social situations, and absolutely central to the success of any guy’s attempts at attracting and seducing women. Quite simply, by learning the CORRECT psychological rules, principles and tactics, any guy can play and WIN at the game of seduction. For example, let’s look at one such psychological technique, that used correctly boosts any guy’s chance of getting a girl’s number or hooking up with her at a later date by at  least 50%, each and every time he uses it. It’s called option limitation and works on the following principle of human nature:

When someone’s presented with only a single choice, often their natural reaction will be to rebel against it and go their own way. However, when given 2 or 3 options, the opposite occurs: they feel their intellectual freedom has been respected and they make their choice from the variety of options they’ve been presented with.

You can use this universal psychological principle when picking-up or seducing a woman by carefully constructing how you pose important questions or phrases while talking to her.

For example, most men think saying: “Can I have your number?” is an okay way to finish a conversation that’s gone well with a girl. But a much more powerful and effective way of saying the same thing would be to use option limitation. Something like: “It’s been nice to meet you. Shall we swap numbers or maybe grab a bite to eat and a drink tomorrow?” What you’re doing is presenting the girl with a choice between good and better – whichever she says yes to, you win. If you only give her one option, as in the first example, she’s likely to create her own alternative, which means there’s a chance she won’t say yes to the option you gave her. When she subconsciously recognises that she’s been given a choice between multiple outcomes, she feels her intellectual freedom has been respected and she chooses one of them.

So, always use option limitation to give the impression there’s a variety of options available to the girl – even though each one is fine as far as you’re concerned. And to strengthen the effect of option limitation, always try to separate the choices you give the girl with the word “or.”  When people hear “or” they automatically recognise that they need to make a choice, and therefore do just that.

Option limitation is just one example of how, whether they know it or not, men who are successful with women CREATE that success for themselves – not through luck or good fortune.

Tiffany Taylor is the female author of GuyGetsGirl, a special guide for men that reveals all the dirty tricks women play on guys each and every day. And, most importantly, how men can turn the tables on women by using special psychological techniques to attract and seduce them, anywhere, anytime…effortlessly. Or visit http://doyoulove.info/getgirl

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By nordend – February 11, 2010

Premature Reconciliation

Nugget: Premature Reconciliation. 

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What it means: When a guy or gal is trying to win back the affections of their ex…many times they start to make headway…but then go too far when the ex shows signs of reattachment.
 
For example…
 
Tom calls Sally and they set up a little coffee talk…and it goes well…BUT rather than leaving after 20 minutes or so…Tom continues and tries to move forward too fast.
 
And even if Sally brings up getting back together first…Tom’s response should NOT be YIPEE!
 
He’d be much better off staying calm and saying something like…
 
“Let’s take it slow and see how it goes.”
 
Women I email and talk with…often make the mistake of ’sleeping with their ex’ too soon. (classic Premature Reconciliation)
 
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By nordend – February 2, 2010

Love Online: Emotions on the Internet

Love Online: Emotions on the Internet

5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful, April 20, 2009 by “Kimberly Max Brown” (Williamstown NJ)
I thought this book Love Online was very insightful. I wanted to learn more about how people express affection on the internet. “Love Online” explained in a scholarly fashion just how the internet may encourage the kind of conversational yet increasingly intimate chat and e-mail that often gets people into trouble with their relationships.

Ben Ze’ev is a philosopher, much more so than a psychoanalyst. He is keen to demonstrate how the philosophical mores of the internet (independence, lack of censorship, etc.) break down the usual barriers to intimacy (shyness, vulnerability, truth, attraction, availability, etc.). Thus, the power inherent in internet communication fosters immense changes in traditional social relationships.

Ben Ze’ev reinforces the old adage that the mind is most sexual organ, while highlighting the ways the internet is conditioned to sustain romantic and sexual cerebral play. Once the communicators begin their online exchange, qualities that are most keenly activated among offline lovers emerge. However, the links between the two conversants remain tenuous and ephemeral. Out of this soup of verbal chat, IM, e-mail, web videos, and blogging, many of the real world circumstances that seem to contain offline relationship disappear. For instance, regarding marriage, the author describes in great detail how the internet may undermine a commitment by flooding it with illicit sexual and romantic communication without the knowledge or consent of both partners. Though emotional and sexual infidelity of this sort may be obvious to some, what is not so apparent are the mechanisms in the human psyche that make this so attractive and powerful in the first place. Further, the author also details how such verbal intimacy is introducing new norms in marriage, such as sexually open, internet-based relationships.

In the end, Ben Ze’ev is making a strong case for the transformation of modern marriage into a relationship that accommodates internet influenced intimacies. For those who have fallen prey to internet romantic and sexual love, and the unfulfilled hopes and expectations that usually arise, this book will help to understand what happened. Anyone who thinks that legislating marriage between one man and one woman is useful hasn’t spent much time lately using the internet.

Love Online

Aaron Ben-Ze’ev

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By nordend – January 30, 2010

Do You Love to be proud of Me

In the Name of Love – Darling, Are You Proud of Me?

Do you realize that you should be proud of me?

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A Philosopher Looks at Our Deepest Emotion

Aaron Ben-Zeév is President and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Haifa. His books include: 

by Aaron Ben-Zeév found at psychologytoday.com on January 29, 2010

http://ak.imgfarm.com/images/fwp/myfuncards/Holidays/lg/LoveAndPride.jpg“It is better to lose your pride with someone you love rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride.” Unknown
“Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man.” C. S. Lewis
“When you’re as great as I am, it’s hard to be humble.” Muhammad Ali

What is the connection between romantic love and pride? It seems that although not all instances of pride involve love, basically all instances of romantic love involve pride. The nature and profoundness of love is expressed in the nature and profoundness of pride. Lovers are very proud of their beloved.

The relationship between love and jealousy is somewhat similar, but is manifested in a negative way. Jealousy does not necessarily involve love, but genuine romantic love may give rise to jealousy.

We can distinguish between pridefulness, which is the emotion resulting from the belief that one is a superior and better person, and pride, which is the emotion arising from the belief that one has done a good thing. Whereas pridefulness has a negative impact upon romantic relationship, pride is an important and often useful part of it.

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Pride of your lover is of greater moral value than pride in yourself as it is directed at another person. Continued…

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By nordend – January 30, 2010

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HBO Big Love: Making contact.

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Bill Paxton little connection to get things moving. Characters came together throughout this episode, titled “Strange Bedfellows” — some for the better, and some for the worse, but all of which set forward a nice, exciting momentum for the rest of the season

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By nordend – January 25, 2010

How Do I save My Relationship With My Girlfriend

How Do I save My Relationship With My Girlfriend

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If you’ve asked the question: “how do I save my relationship with my girlfriend” than you know how challenging it can be sometimes to make a relationship work.

The good news is that even though it is sometimes difficult, it’s not impossible and having a great relationship really is one of the best things in life and well worth the effort.

The first thing you have to honestly evaluate is whether or not the relationship is really something that should be saved.

This is so hard to do because no one wants to admit that maybe the person they love isn’t the right person for them. It happens all the time that people stay in a relationship with someone who just isn’t a good fit, and they are miserable.

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By nordend – January 25, 2010

Coping With A Break Up 4 Steps For Getting Back On Your Feet

Coping With A Break Up 4 Steps For Getting Back On Your Feet

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It can be hard to deal with a break up. Many tend to dwell on their ended relationship. They waste time and emotion on something that they simply cannot change. These people need to learn how to deal with a break up. If you are coping with a break up, there are a few things that you can do to make the process as painless as possible. These 4 steps will help you to deal with the end of your relationship.

Let it All Out

The first thing that you need to do is to get all of your emotions out. You need to every single emotion out, whether it be angry, sad, frustrated, or mad. Talk to friends about how you feel. Write down your thoughts in a journal or through an online blog. If you want to get back on your feet, you need to deal with these emotions.

Hit the Town

If you want to get back on your feet, you need to get out. Go out with friends and enjoy doing activities without your ex. Ask friends to go to the movies or to go to the mall. If you feel up to it, go out to bars and clubs with your friends. You need to get out of your house. Hitting the town with close friends is the best way to do so.

Meet New People

It is important for you to meet new people when you are dealing with a breakup. This is not to say that you should be scoping out someone new to date. You should simply talk to new people and go on a few dates. These pressure-free situations will help you to get a feel for what is out there. Seeing what else is out there is an easy way to get back on your feet after a break up.

Give Yourself Time

The most important step to follow is the last. You need to give yourself time to deal with your breakup. Everyone would love to be able to get over a breakup in a matter of days. This type of turnaround time is simply impossible. Give yourself time to get over the emotions that you feel. The more time you give yourself, the more likely you are to get over your relationship.

Some people try to bottle up their emotions when dealing with a break up. They think that this will help them to cope with the end of that relationship. In reality, bottling these emotions makes the entire situation worse. You need to go out on the town with your friends and meet new people. You need to leave yourself some time to grieve, and some time to be single. If you are coping with a break up, you need to follow these steps.

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By nordend – January 17, 2010

AMOUR BRISE – BROKEN HEART – SENDING AN ANGEL

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By nordend – January 8, 2010

Can Positive Thinking Get My Boyfriend Back

Can Positive Thinking Get My Boyfriend Back

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There are a lot of people who believe in the power of positive thinking. They work hard to ensure that they remove as many negative thoughts as possible. Some people believe that positive thinking can get my boyfriend back. There are a lot of things to consider when thinking about positive thinking. While it may be able to help you to get your boyfriend back, it may not be the only thing that you need to do.

Benefits of Positive Thinking

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Positive thinking can be a big help when you are trying to get someone back. If you want to know if positive thinking get my boyfriend back, think about the good that it can do.

Positive thinking can completely change your outlook on your old relationship. It will help you to remove the negative thoughts that you may have. You may not think about the negatives of that past relationship. You will also stop thinking negatively in terms of your chances of getting back together. Positive thinking can help you to look at the situation in a new light.

Positive thinking may also give you a new perspective on your life. You may realize that you do not want to get back together with your old boyfriend when you think positively. You may realize that you do not need them after all, and that you are fine on your own. This may not be the case, but it is a possibility to consider. While this is slightly different, it is still a benefit of positive thinking.

Issues With Positive Thinking

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Relying completely on positive thinking may not be good for your overall issue. While it is important to think positively, you still need to take action. You still need to asses the situation. You need to understand the steps that you need to take to get your boyfriend back.

If you only try positive thinking, your chances of getting your boyfriend back are slim to none. They will not know that you are thinking of them. They will not know that you are thinking about getting back together with them. Without action, positive thinking is not going to get you back together with your old boyfriend.

Positive thinking is all about you. It helps you to get over your issues, and helps you to think positively. Positive thinking does not do anything to the person that you want to get back together with.

Positive thinking is an important part of this overall process. If you want to make sure that you get our old boyfriend back, however, you must take action. Talk to them. Listen to what they have to say. Buy them small gifts, and try to spend time with them. These are the only ways to actually get your boyfriend back. 

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By nordend – January 5, 2010

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Beating The Break-Up Blues when my boyfriend is cheating on me

Break-ups are the worst. http://www.exgirlfriend.biz

fight ex back fastYou feel all out of sorts because life as you’ve known it prior to the break-up gets turned all upside down, and chances are you’re not quite sure which way is up right now.

While I do understand how painful breaking up can be, there are a few things you can do to help transition back into at least a semblance of “normal” life.

The key is to put your focus on something else.

It may take a little time, but doing this will take some of the edge off the pain you’re feeling and let you move on through life without having to deal with a lot of the blocks and re-starts some folks can’t seem to get past.

Instead, they get stuck in “life without him/her mode” and have a hard time moving forward.

Don’t let this happen to you.

Break-up’s are painful, yes. But the truth is, the world hasn’t ended, even if it does tend to feel like yours is falling apart at the moment. Life will and does go on – with or without you.

You, however, are a survivor. You won’t stay trapped in the past, because you’ll be moving forward.

For the first few weeks, it may be best if you don’t go to the places you and s/he often frequented together, and don’t try to hang out with what should be mutual friends.

You can pick up these extended relationships later, but for now, concentrate on things you know make you feel good that do not have a connection to him/her.

If you have trouble coming up with something to focus on, take some time to think about the kinds of things you enjoyed before you began your relationship.

Did you have a hobby you’ve kind of let go?  Was there something you were passionate about before you and s/he met? Really give it some thought, and then start to do those things.

The more involved you become in doing things that make you feel good, the better you will feel. In time (faster than you think) you’ll be able to call on those friends you and s/he both enjoyed spending time with, and even face-to-face meetings with your ex will be easier to handle.

Just remember to put your focus on doing things that make you feel good, and you’ll beat those break-up blues in no time! Visit http://www.exgirlfriend.biz

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How To Make Him Or Her Fall In Love Again

How To Make Him Or Her Fall In Love Again

Things getting a little boring in your relationship? Feeling like every day is the same as the day before? How would you like to bring back the excitement and fun you felt when you first fell in love? Think it’s impossible? It’s not.

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See, if you know why a person fell in love with you in the first place, you know how to make that person fall in love with you all over again, as many times as Continued…

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